Nesting, Friends, Finances and Childcare
Things have been busy as usual. I don’t know if I have caught the Spring Cleaning Bug or if its “nesting” from the pregnancy but I just want to get so much done and its frustrating…. I think I am nesting… I have so much I wanted to do and have done and I am getting so frustrated because either I cannot physically do it right now because I am pregnant, or I don’t have the money to do it right now…. And the worse part about it is that I know myself, and if I am on a roll and in the mood to get things done, they get done! Otherwise, if I am not in the mood it will sit, and here lately I have been ready to go and I just can’t do anything.
The other day I was determined to scrub the bathrooms. I just bought some more Ajax (3 for $1 at Walgreens the other week) and had my scrub brush and sponge ready to go and my husband stops me and says that I shouldn’t do it because I should not be around the fumes being pregnant. But I was going to wear a mask and we have the windows open and I would have the fan on – plus they need to be scrubbed. Instead he said he would do it later for me and suggested I do laundry… I HATE doing laundry. For some reason we have accumulated 4-5 hampers in our house, which is way too many in my book. And my husband normally does the laundry but he doesn’t do it until the hamper is full, which happens to be about the same time that all of the hampers become full, leaving us with about 7-8 + loads of laundry to do at one time. By the time the third load comes out of the dryer he starts piling up all of the clean clothes for me to fold/hang and put away. I don’t mind doing laundry but putting away 4 + consecutive loads is just too much for me to want to deal with in one evening after working in the office all day.
And I really want to get the yard done right now in the back. The weather has been perfect to go outside and work in it but either its something I physically cannot do right now being pregnant or we don’t have the money to do it. When we moved in, the backyard was just a dirt lot with some weeds starting to pop up. Now, a year later, we sprayed and removed the weeds, its still a dirt lot. The dirt has also become very hard, almost like clay, so we need to till it and add some soil before we can put sod in. At least I can sit there with the hose and spray water ahead of where my husband is walking with the tiller to help soften the soil….but we can’t afford the grass yet.
I was setting up the baby’s new room and I desperately was wanting to go and buy some baskets/bins to go on the 2 shelves under the changing table so I can store diapers, wipes and baby blankets, etc… in them but I have to hold off until another pay day so I feel I have yet to complete the nursery.
I have even gone to the extent of reorganizing underneath the bathroom sinks and linen closet as they are getting on my nerves of not being how I want them. I am going nuts and am frustrated with things not being as I wish with how my home is organized. My house is usually quite clean and organized so don’t think I live in a pig sty or anything- its just that I have seem to hit a crazy button and want to achieve in making my home look and stay looking like one of those in magazines or online articles that show slide shows of remodeled or organized homes. At least I FINALLY set up our wedding stuff in the cabinet in the dining room.
But as I have been cleaning I have been slowly weeding through our things and am getting rid of things we just never use. We have set aside an area in the garage to put items for a garage sale and plan to have another on in the next week or so. The last garage sale was a success in my book and I think we will do well this time too and anything that does not sell we will donate to charity so at least someone can get some use out of it (tax write off).
I am currently going through and working on our household budget as I think we are off track and need to reevaluate our spending. We are going to go down to the bank and see about refinancing my husband’s car now that we have paid down on what we owe for it. That will help us a LOT each month. But I had to make a trip to the hospital earlier this week and that was another lovely deductible bill to hit us – Yay! (sarcasm).
A friend of mine invited me to go out with her and a couple of her friends this evening and I really want to go but I just don’t think I am up for it. Getting over being sick, I am just too exhausted by the time I get home…. It really stinks because I don’t get invited out much at all or if I do get invited I can’t go because I am either busy babysitting because we need the money or I just don’t have the money to go, and this sounded like SO much fun too! We had even taken our kids to the zoo over the weekend together and I had a blast. I didn’t feel like I was being judge as a parent and I felt I had found a friend that I could stick with for life, as many people seem to tire of me I think, but our personalities seem very similar. The things that I do that I think can come off as being a bit “b*tchy” didn’t seem to bother her and instead we found ourselves laughing at the same things – like the jello-belly lady walking down the street - And we caught each other saying the same type things to our kids as the other.
In high school and right after, I had a busy social life, but since I had kids and settled down things changed. I was the first one out of my friends to have kids and I had my daughter before I was even 21 so I missed out on those years bar hoping in college with my friends and I was left out a lot because of it (just because someone has kids and may not be able to go, at least extend the invite so they don’t feel left out). And since then I can literally count on one hand people I consider to be true friends and even these friends and I will go easily a year or more at times before we can hang out. But now I feel I found a friend that I feel is right there on the same level and I feel I can count on when I need her and I hope she knows she can feel the same way too. And making friends like that, to me isn’t easy. But enough of my social anxieties and insecurities….
I registered on the website www.Care.com to advertise my childcare services. I hope it is helpful. I see ads for the site on TV a lot and hope its becoming popular and I get my name out there. I even registered for them to run a background check on me so parents who are interested in hiring me can rest assured that I am not some crazy lady or a felon. I know first aid, CPR and the Heimlich but my red cross card expired showing that I know it so I need to contact one of the fire departments that do the training classes so I can renew my card. I am sure that there is going to be another fee for renewing too but it will be a good investment.
This weekend I plan to just get everything I possibly can done around the house. I know I need to take it easy and I won’t over do it, it’s just that I am going nuts otherwise with this nesting syndrome…. Just over a month to go though and I will have another baby girl!
The other day I was determined to scrub the bathrooms. I just bought some more Ajax (3 for $1 at Walgreens the other week) and had my scrub brush and sponge ready to go and my husband stops me and says that I shouldn’t do it because I should not be around the fumes being pregnant. But I was going to wear a mask and we have the windows open and I would have the fan on – plus they need to be scrubbed. Instead he said he would do it later for me and suggested I do laundry… I HATE doing laundry. For some reason we have accumulated 4-5 hampers in our house, which is way too many in my book. And my husband normally does the laundry but he doesn’t do it until the hamper is full, which happens to be about the same time that all of the hampers become full, leaving us with about 7-8 + loads of laundry to do at one time. By the time the third load comes out of the dryer he starts piling up all of the clean clothes for me to fold/hang and put away. I don’t mind doing laundry but putting away 4 + consecutive loads is just too much for me to want to deal with in one evening after working in the office all day.
And I really want to get the yard done right now in the back. The weather has been perfect to go outside and work in it but either its something I physically cannot do right now being pregnant or we don’t have the money to do it. When we moved in, the backyard was just a dirt lot with some weeds starting to pop up. Now, a year later, we sprayed and removed the weeds, its still a dirt lot. The dirt has also become very hard, almost like clay, so we need to till it and add some soil before we can put sod in. At least I can sit there with the hose and spray water ahead of where my husband is walking with the tiller to help soften the soil….but we can’t afford the grass yet.
I was setting up the baby’s new room and I desperately was wanting to go and buy some baskets/bins to go on the 2 shelves under the changing table so I can store diapers, wipes and baby blankets, etc… in them but I have to hold off until another pay day so I feel I have yet to complete the nursery.
I have even gone to the extent of reorganizing underneath the bathroom sinks and linen closet as they are getting on my nerves of not being how I want them. I am going nuts and am frustrated with things not being as I wish with how my home is organized. My house is usually quite clean and organized so don’t think I live in a pig sty or anything- its just that I have seem to hit a crazy button and want to achieve in making my home look and stay looking like one of those in magazines or online articles that show slide shows of remodeled or organized homes. At least I FINALLY set up our wedding stuff in the cabinet in the dining room.
But as I have been cleaning I have been slowly weeding through our things and am getting rid of things we just never use. We have set aside an area in the garage to put items for a garage sale and plan to have another on in the next week or so. The last garage sale was a success in my book and I think we will do well this time too and anything that does not sell we will donate to charity so at least someone can get some use out of it (tax write off).
I am currently going through and working on our household budget as I think we are off track and need to reevaluate our spending. We are going to go down to the bank and see about refinancing my husband’s car now that we have paid down on what we owe for it. That will help us a LOT each month. But I had to make a trip to the hospital earlier this week and that was another lovely deductible bill to hit us – Yay! (sarcasm).
A friend of mine invited me to go out with her and a couple of her friends this evening and I really want to go but I just don’t think I am up for it. Getting over being sick, I am just too exhausted by the time I get home…. It really stinks because I don’t get invited out much at all or if I do get invited I can’t go because I am either busy babysitting because we need the money or I just don’t have the money to go, and this sounded like SO much fun too! We had even taken our kids to the zoo over the weekend together and I had a blast. I didn’t feel like I was being judge as a parent and I felt I had found a friend that I could stick with for life, as many people seem to tire of me I think, but our personalities seem very similar. The things that I do that I think can come off as being a bit “b*tchy” didn’t seem to bother her and instead we found ourselves laughing at the same things – like the jello-belly lady walking down the street - And we caught each other saying the same type things to our kids as the other.
In high school and right after, I had a busy social life, but since I had kids and settled down things changed. I was the first one out of my friends to have kids and I had my daughter before I was even 21 so I missed out on those years bar hoping in college with my friends and I was left out a lot because of it (just because someone has kids and may not be able to go, at least extend the invite so they don’t feel left out). And since then I can literally count on one hand people I consider to be true friends and even these friends and I will go easily a year or more at times before we can hang out. But now I feel I found a friend that I feel is right there on the same level and I feel I can count on when I need her and I hope she knows she can feel the same way too. And making friends like that, to me isn’t easy. But enough of my social anxieties and insecurities….
I registered on the website www.Care.com to advertise my childcare services. I hope it is helpful. I see ads for the site on TV a lot and hope its becoming popular and I get my name out there. I even registered for them to run a background check on me so parents who are interested in hiring me can rest assured that I am not some crazy lady or a felon. I know first aid, CPR and the Heimlich but my red cross card expired showing that I know it so I need to contact one of the fire departments that do the training classes so I can renew my card. I am sure that there is going to be another fee for renewing too but it will be a good investment.
This weekend I plan to just get everything I possibly can done around the house. I know I need to take it easy and I won’t over do it, it’s just that I am going nuts otherwise with this nesting syndrome…. Just over a month to go though and I will have another baby girl!
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