Ball up and Cry

So my hubby has been out of town for over the last week and he won't be back for almost another week. I am going insane. I don't think he realizes how much we appreciate everything he does and that we do know how hard he works and all the things he does for us. It becomes apparent especially when he leaves. But I want to have the house just as clean and kept up when he gets home as it is when he is here but I am finding it very difficult to keep up with everything as well as it is when he is here. My husband pampers me. He cleans the house, does yard work, does the check book, cooks, tends to the kids, fixes the car, does the dishes, the laundry, etc... But I also miss him. I am missing how he makes me laugh, makes me feel better when I am stressed, plays with the kids... My insomnia has been horrible with him gone. There are nights that I end up fussing at him to rollover because his snoring keeps me up, but when he is gone, the silence is maddening. I want the snoring back.

In the mean time, my son's OCD like tendencies have gotten worse- the tendencies haven't gotten worse but his reactions to things if its not how he thinks they should be have gotten worse. He is hitting, screaming, shoving, pinching, pulling hair, kicking and throwing things. I have tried everything in my arsonal. Everything I would do as a parent, everything that the therapists recommend. The meltdowns happen so randomly that I cannot pinpoint a trigger to where I can play defense and stop the meltdown before it starts. I don't know if this is all his way of adjusting to all the recent changes. His sister being born, me leaving the office and being home, me starting an in-home preschool and getting used the kids being here, his sister being gone (she started school), him returning to preschool and also having a new teacher and now his dad being gone for work.... I dunno... but I just want to scream along with him and then curl up in a ball and cry. I am hoping this is a temporary set back but am terrified because if its not and we can't figure out how to counter it, its only going to worse and can be more dangerous as he gets older as he will be stronger and bigger (like a teen) and could meltdown and seriously hurt someone. Please God let this just be a temporary thing while he adjusts to all the changes going on around him.