This has been bugging me for a while...
There are people in this world I have chosen not to associate with as we either just do not get along for one reason or the next, those who only seemed to bring negativity to the table, those who only take and friendship only works one way for them and then there are those who's actions or words cross a line and offend to a point that I would rather not associate with them as my moral compass is pointed in a different direction.
I feel I have officially lost a friend today. I say that I "officially" did because I no longer see them listed as one of my followers which means that they have cut the final tie. This person had been a friend of mine since we moved here a couple of years ago. This was someone whom we trusted each other enough to watch each of our kids, that I hung out with on a weekend for girl's night ins, or we did outings to the mall or taking our kids to the park or zoo together. She also introduced me to other people here in town who I am still friends with.
Of course it all happened with some Facebook drama. She had posted something which she intended as a joke, but it crossed a line in a big way to where it was extremely offensive. It was vial. She took the post down but instead of doing so saying she didn't mean to offend anyone or apologizing for it crossing a line, she instead began to mock the situation and those who were deeply offended by it.
The "joke" mocked/insulted people with mental disabilities to a level that was just vial.
My son has what would be considered a "mental disability" with his Autism. I was completely offended and hurt that someone, a "friend" of mine, would post this. I was clearly not the only one who was hurt as many other friends/moms either lashed out saying how inexcusable it was or posting things against the slander that was used. And I know people "de-friended" her on Facebook, some even blocked her.
I quietly just de-friended her. I was so hurt and didn't know what to say as she knows many of the struggles that I have had to deal with and the challenges my son has faced. She knows of the struggles some of our other mom friends have had to deal with with their children. Not to mention the fact that her daughter also has her own special needs (with diabetes) you would think she would have more empathy, especially with how sensitive she is about people not taking her daughter's condition serious enough/too serious.
I had hoped that I would hear something from her. Her reaching out asking why I de-friended her or an apology or something, but no... I obviously wasn't that good enough of a friend for her to worry about. So I say to that, oh well now. I hold my head high knowing at least I made the right decision.
I feel I have officially lost a friend today. I say that I "officially" did because I no longer see them listed as one of my followers which means that they have cut the final tie. This person had been a friend of mine since we moved here a couple of years ago. This was someone whom we trusted each other enough to watch each of our kids, that I hung out with on a weekend for girl's night ins, or we did outings to the mall or taking our kids to the park or zoo together. She also introduced me to other people here in town who I am still friends with.
Of course it all happened with some Facebook drama. She had posted something which she intended as a joke, but it crossed a line in a big way to where it was extremely offensive. It was vial. She took the post down but instead of doing so saying she didn't mean to offend anyone or apologizing for it crossing a line, she instead began to mock the situation and those who were deeply offended by it.
The "joke" mocked/insulted people with mental disabilities to a level that was just vial.
My son has what would be considered a "mental disability" with his Autism. I was completely offended and hurt that someone, a "friend" of mine, would post this. I was clearly not the only one who was hurt as many other friends/moms either lashed out saying how inexcusable it was or posting things against the slander that was used. And I know people "de-friended" her on Facebook, some even blocked her.
I quietly just de-friended her. I was so hurt and didn't know what to say as she knows many of the struggles that I have had to deal with and the challenges my son has faced. She knows of the struggles some of our other mom friends have had to deal with with their children. Not to mention the fact that her daughter also has her own special needs (with diabetes) you would think she would have more empathy, especially with how sensitive she is about people not taking her daughter's condition serious enough/too serious.
I had hoped that I would hear something from her. Her reaching out asking why I de-friended her or an apology or something, but no... I obviously wasn't that good enough of a friend for her to worry about. So I say to that, oh well now. I hold my head high knowing at least I made the right decision.
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